Our fourth spring as homeowners

We have crested and experienced a new first - M and I purchased plants today. Flowering plants. Our front yard remains a mess of red dirt and beautiful new concrete, but we now have a hanging basket of flowers in front and a pot of flowers next to the front door. We have had a…

Springtime wants

The past few days my thoughts have been scattered far and wide. Work has been busy, as it always is just before I take a few well-deserved days off. Home has been busy as well, with plotting and planning and thinking about all I would like to get done in 5 days and bracing myself…

What to do with a few days off

I'm taking next Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday off to regain some work/non-work balance. It has been severely out of whack lately toward the work side of the equation. No particular plans, other than both medical and dental appointments on Wednesday afternoon. I would like to work on some household decluttering/organizing that never seems to get completely…

A difficult life

Reading an email from a long-time friend back east and the struggles he is enduring, I was surprised to find him refer to it as "my presently difficult life."  In all the years we have known each other, through a lot of ups and downs, I have never heard him use this gloomy term to…

Money, animosity, and a currency of pain

My kids refer to their father's wife as "that woman." When the rare occasions arise that they speak of her, the term surfaces and along with a rarcor reserved specifically for her and the situation their father left behind. About anyone or anything. They can dislike their jobs and their bosses, but their tones are tinged…

Year(s) of firsts

In 1996 my daughter died, and I entered what I referred to "the year of firsts." Every holiday, every birthday, ever "just because" occasion was like this huge, stake-through-my-heart agony of grief and loss. And every single one of them, I though next year would be better, because it would not be the year of firsts.…