This is just a quickie while I wait on hold with the IRS. My workdays are just so interesting lately.
Anyway, I was scanning through blogs I read regularly and have noted this trend where bloggers get opinions that are critical or different than their (the blog writer’s) solutions and their feelings get hurt. I read the comments and do not see much to take personally – people have different opinions and experiences and reality is there are few one-size-fits-all solutions for day-to-day issues we each face. My imperfect self appreciates the differing perspectives and if I disagree I disagree. No harm, no foul, no need to take a blogging break, or to take my blog private. Maybe there are unpublished comments that are really mean? Use the delete button and forget it?
It’s funny that I say that, because I do not have a particularly thick skin and an real anxiety when I started blogging was whether or not I could handle critical commentary. I do take comments personally in some ways – I was moved to tears this morning when reading the kind, supportive, and practical comments on last night’s post about my job – but even if every single one had said “suck it up and deal” I would have taken it to heart long enough to examine my behaviors, reactions, and solutions. This outlet is priceless to me, and if there are mean people commenting they are entitled to their opinions just as I am entitled to not publish them.
This is an ongoing curiousity for me. I hope I never attract haters that make me feel really bad, but then again, the blogs where I have seen this phenomenon I did not find the published comments offensive or even that critical.