Exceptional

I have been quieter than usual the last few days. A lot going on in my mind, and more challenge than usual to gather and capture all my thoughts and emotions to put them in order to write. This post, I'm not sure there is order in my chaos, a sure sign of a me…

Expectations, feelings, The Holidays

My daughter and son-in-law are presently somewhere in Texas (it's a big state) enroute to their new home and chapter in their life in Florida. She texts me, her brother and sister-in-law every evening when they are done driving for the day. While I am not especially worried about them on this grand adventure, it…

The kids are all right

We have a few things going on with close friends this week, so I feel a little distracted and frazzled trying to help navigate from a geographically challenged position. But things always have a way of working out for the best, but it reminds of¬†interactions in the last few weeks with my kids, friends talking…

Being a mentor

I have a situation at work and a situation in my personal life that both require aspects of my better, more sensible, more creative self. And I wonder if I am up to the tasks. On the personal side of life, my young friend has terminated her engagement. Her reasons are valid and quite mature,…

When helping hinders

I have been pondering this off and on for the last several years. When it comes to parenting, family ties, friendship - when does helping cross the line into enabling or even harming the one you seek to help? Or harming you? As a mother and a recovering codependent, I have had my lumps in…

Not quite a terrible person, but ….

With M's father's death in November a firestorm of family politics broke out. Having been estranged a few years by that point, we were mostly insulated from the direct assaults. However, SIL1 and her grown son waded in directly and have endured some drama and trauma. It is difficult to be sympathetic to their plight,…