Tides

Emotionally, feeling the bounce toward my typical push-pull life balance. Gaining perspective doesn't happen in a vacuum with all my sadness and grief under lockdown. Unfortunately grief is a process and there are no shortcuts. Tuesday mornings I have a standing 5:30 conference call with an east coast client. It is typically an energetic phone…

Grief and boundaries

Fridays are becoming free-for-alls for me here on the blog. Of course, it sort of fits with my no-theme theme and methodology of blogging. Today is inspired by both by current events in my life and things I have crossed paths with while wandering around and reading random stuff. My friend J has been quite…

Loss

After Tuesday's post went up, I got an email from an old friend about it. We met years and years ago in my first child abuse victim support group and became friends after a fashion, or as friendly as two people with similar, horrible histories can become when that is the primary thing you have…

dealing with “the best”

"Things work out for the best." "Making the best of a bad/sad situation." "I wish you the best." These are common phrases. I have, and will continue, to use them myself. Because I believe it, I believe things tend to work out for the best and that it is possible to make the best of…

I wish I had known you better

My older sister and only sibling would be 57 today. She died from cancer or its complications almost 10 years ago. She was estranged from my mom and I for a few years before death, so by the time she reached out again it was because the breast cancer discovered (during the estrangement years) had…