Parenting is hard

It's St. Patrick's day. In 1984, my oldest child was born. I remember checking into the hospital and the nurse saying I would be having a  St. Patrick's day baby and in honor of that, they would be tattooing a shamrock on the baby's butt. Whether my serious expression was primarily fear of this whole…

Walking away a winner

Today was a bit of a rarity: M came to the office to (1) see the new office in our moved-in state and while still in it's bright and shiny newness, and (2) bring me some soup and crackers to try and settle a troubled tummy. The upset stomach started in the middle of the night…

Peaks and valleys

This is a first for me - blogging from a local Starbuck's. Everything is fine at home, wifi is fully functional and working perfectly. But I wanted/needed caffeine this morning and felt a strong desire for a change of scenery for this post. Because honestly, I'm having the good, the great, the really shitty this…

Life changes and choices

My son got married yesterday. And my daughter and I had a rare coffee date on our way to getting our hair styled. Wedding hair is kind of overrated, but it was fun to have the amazing curls for a little while and kinda/sorta keep them glued in place for the better part of the…

The Honor System

A lot of places I frequent have these boxes labeled "candy for charity." The idea is you put in your quarter or whatever amount and take a piece of the candy in the box. While I typically see them on counters manned and lightly supervised by a business employee, occasionally the boxes are left somewhere else…

The kids are all right

We have a few things going on with close friends this week, so I feel a little distracted and frazzled trying to help navigate from a geographically challenged position. But things always have a way of working out for the best, but it reminds of interactions in the last few weeks with my kids, friends talking…

Celebrating Mother’s Day

On Friday I had a coworker ask me if I had any plans for Mother's Day, and I was startled to realize it is Sunday, today. First and foremost, I really do not celebrate Mother's day and encourage my kids to celebrate it with their remaining grandmother who does appreciate the acknowledgement and being feted…

Family dynamics and regrets

Last week during our session J told me a story about his childhood. At 4, his father took him out onto the balcony of their apartment, handed him a bunch of flashcards, and told him to learn to read. Then he went back inside and locked the door, leaving J outside, 4 years old, alone on…

In a blink

M and I had dinner last night with C, A, A's mother, stepfather, and older brother. It was a casual meal and a relaxed evening. The more time I spend with them, the more I like and appreciate my future sister in mother-in-lawhood. She is a kind and gracious woman, but more importantly - probably…

Our responsibilities as parents

I spent the weekend being a couch slug with general malaise and still not feeling 100%. Allergies? Illness? At this point I am not sure, but I know that there has been way too much cough and cold illness exposure. Mostly I had zero energy and needed more sleep. This morning I was trying to catch…