Coping with past histories

M and I have been married nearly 20 years, together for more than 25. A long shared history. However, we both had lives, friendships, relationships before we became a couple. Like everyone else. Not so stark difference with us is that vast majority of my friends pre-M have become part of the fabric of our…

Budget sacrifices

We have a couple gifting occasions coming up this summer. Normally I don't give it a whole lot of thought - if it's a wedding I go to their registry, pick something out, order it, ship it, done. If it's a baby shower, I do the same thing. If it's a baby announcement, though, I…

Sometimes I surprise myself

Early to bed, even earlier to rise. Body had its own ideas yesterday, and threw on the brakes after yoga class last night. I got home, showered, and fell asleep - at 6:30 on a Friday night. Obviously we are party animals around here. Whether it was too high of temperature in the class (Bikram is…

It gets better and recent family discussions

I was chatting with a friend this morning about her trials and tributions with therapy. Anyone who has been through this sort of process for emotional stuff understands it can be very, very tough getting started. And all too frequently it seems to get so much worse week after week. It also gets better. I…

Weddings, birthdays, CAKE … oh my!

News of the day is that my daughter, C, and her fiance, A, have finally settled on a wedding date. Theirs will be a simple, no-frills, courthouse wedding downtown tentatively scheduled for April 22. Since that is what they want, we are completely behind their choice and happy for them. However, A's big, boisterous family…

Year-end countdown

I feel as if I am on some sort of deathwatch, with the final days of 2015 upon us. While I have some grief and sadness in my life right now, it was actually a good year. M and I are living our lives and things are progressing in good ways, and majority of those…

Wedding ponderings

On Sunday I am meeting with G and K and K's stepmother to visit the proposed venue for their wedding and reception. It's kind of heady, exciting stuff to contemplate and I genuinely appreciate being invited to participate in the planning. Even if I do nothing else until next summer when I am trying to…

Engaged!

As of last night, both my daughter and my son are engaged to their respective partners. It is a happy time in our household and family. With G and K, I expect there will not be an extended engagement and that the wedding will happen in the spring sometime. K is very organized that way,…